Those who are still single may learn something from here....
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage....


EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening
TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.

You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling .

so then you are bless with her i know you find the right....did u marry her or sooner/maybe later...makistismis lng kung ok sa iyo..God bless wherever you are right now.

  ofcourse, you marry the right person,
  otherwise you did`nt marry him.

What if the person you found is a Personal Computer? ;D chobits

wen nekcro you married the right person

what if you did marry the right person but you're wrong for him?? :'( :'(

hmmm... ganito ata nangyari sa akin...wahahahha!

wahahahaha!!!! anusan adi. i mean enjoyen. that's the life you chose ;D ;D

Hehehe, no hanmu maanusan wenu maenjoy a ket kudtaram. Hankadi, kidding. There are avenues provided for by law to remedy incompatibility. It's difficult and expensive there in the Philippines though. I consider myself lucky my first wedding was abroad, hehehe. After several almost got weds and 2 weddings I am quite sure I got it this time. My last (and only) wife accepted me for what and who I am and she says she loves me very much and I feel the same way towards her too so we're happy. Good luck and best wishes to all of you who go through with the matrimonial vows.

it's not possible,  look at your surroundings..you saw women everywhere but then you must to do a best search to marry the right one not a computer itself inya archy...

ahsus ni neckro (my future neighbor? hehe) ania met ti title ti thread mo.....kitam, akala nila you got married. or did you?

you can never be sure until you try it out all the way.. if it fails, at least you did everything to make it work. if it does, well...

i married the perfect guitar  O0

..and i married my job too..lolz!!..is it ryt?.. :-\ :-\

i'm stuck to my computer.. but i ain't gonna marry her. kawawa ako pag nag-upgrade ako e mamimiss ko cya. :uglystupid:

hahaha mamimiss ka talaga...  :2funny: :2funny:

he did... when was that neckro? ;D ;D ;D the wife's pretty