Thnx 4 makin' me welcome.

I don't know how to spit it out...all I know is I need pip0L who'll understand what I am goin thru ryt now. Friends...my EX-bf of 3 yrs texted me sayin, He Loves me Stil. I don't kn0w what to reply...I've got mixed up by my emotion eh. BTW, he was my 1st bf, after we broke up I haven't found any1 to replace him...apay? I'm stucked with my work-house routine. But I g0t over him already.
If you'll ask if I still love him too...still the answer is YES. But, it's not easy to get back each other's arms again knowing that there are still hanging questions and unresolved issues between us. But don't I deserve an explanation?

I'm in overseas when he broke up with me. He sent the bad news thru a tex msg. His reason(s)? He just doesn't feel the same about me anymore. Does it hurt? yeah, too bad...I'l rather accept if he found somebody else when I was not around coz' that i'll understand (maybe one day he'l gonna come back saying how sorry he was for doing that)...BUT saying He doesn't feel the same feeling as mine, Whew! U maybe know how that feels  :'(. I don't even know how will I react? I felt I lost a battle.

I am asking for help....on how can I reply to his message. I am just wondering if he really is sincere, he'll call me, say sorry first for what he've done to me with my feelings then saying, Luv u stil later on. Being honest, the spark's still there....but I wanna make sure never to feel the pain & hurt again  :'(. Thnx.

I'm no expert at this but my guess is he probably got dumped or something and go nowhere else to go. A little research won't hurt and of course you deserve an explanation. Don't be so ready to believe everything he says though. ;D

Need a second opinion!

Thnx for ur thought  . No, he hadn't been dumped. He had no any gf of 3 yrs too. He not only seclude himself away from his family, friends but even Me. He lived alone trying to find himself. His life got no direction for he had so much freedom. He got numbed, doesn't care about sum1's feelings. He had his own world...but now he's coming out on his shell trying to do something maybe to redeem himself I don't know. All of our friends told me that he wants to win me back for a long time during my absence but he is 'shy mango' for he is having a second thought to act.

BTW, it was year 2004 when we've last seen each other, and for almost 3 yrs that we broke up. It was this year when we met coz I've got the nerve to talk to him with my intention of becoming us to be atleast be friends. We almost  have the same circle of friends. I've realized that though it's OVER b/w us, atleast when we're in the same function we could be atleast civil to each other right? I'd no intention for that talk to give it another shot but to get closure---to feel good about myself. He's the one who dumped me...

Go slow, VERY SLOW. Tell him that you'll just have to be friends for now. It would be a great story if you got back together and all was good. However in my experience that is VERY rare. You could end up being hurt again (more realistic). I think it must be your decision alone!!!

I appreciate that  O0.

Yeah, am stil here overseas at present, so I think it would not do much good if I commit myself to a realization that's like 'we are near, yet so far' scenario. You're right if he is true in saying he luvs me still, then he'll respect my decision for now...if he can wait 'till I come to talk about this matter then I'd give him the benefit of the doubt.

But, I'm so confused on how to start my response. I don't want to be misunderstood.

...try to confide and ask advice from mountzky......she's our joe d mango here.... ...guess she'll be a great help....

Thanks gummy  . Shall I page her then? I h0pe she'll be here then for a rescue...  :-[

Why get yourself worked up about it? How about just telling him you'd consider listening to whatever he has to say and let him do all the work.

OK. I made my reply l said...'I don't understand'.....Know what, he replied back saying, "I don't know what got into me the last time I texted U. That will never happen again". What am I to think of now? He seemed very cold and rude... :'(. Hindi p0 ako manhid...sensya na p0 tao lng  :'(.

Sorry for bothering you, it's juz like when u don't have sum1 to talk on to, u have to atleast release the pain and hurt a bit even in the forum like this. It's juz like I found a friend, who'll listen juz like u guys are doing now.

alam mo kapag mag susulat ka dapat SINUSULAT MO ANG LAHAT NA NARARAMDAMAN MO!! hinde yung "I DON'T UNDERSTAND" lamang!

try this:

" ngayon..pa sorry sorry ka! Di mo ba alam na nasaktan ako sa tineks mo? Sa tingin mo ba madali na lang na kalimutan ang pait na naramdaman ko??"

" bigyan muna natin ang isa't isa ng panahon para mag-isip ng tama at alamin kung ano ang kelangan natin sa buhay. Sa ngayon, hinde ako ma-aawa sa iyo at sa aking sarili...at ako sa ngayon....maa-awa sa iyo??? pwes, MAGDUSA KA!"

.....ayan! subukan mo yan...i text mo na yan dali at malaman natin kung ano ang takbo ng isip nya!

Jimili nman! I was like speechless that time...how if it's not really him who made that msg right? :-\ , but salamat anyway  .



Ha ha ha, I'm sounding like am still bitter if I send that ...ok na cguro ung 1st paragrap plus 2nd paragraph less 2nd sentence  .

...this reply of him hurts. It sounds like he regret sending the 'luv u still' message after all...

..hey..am scrolling over the topic...and i can say why not give each other a space to think and realize any mistake about your relationship?..maybe he has the reason why he sent you that kind of message?..

what are you supposed to do?


go out with me... lets go watch spongebob  ^-^ ^-^ :2funny: :2funny:

Suggestion lang po ha..wla ka sigurong kelangan gawin sa ngayon...ikaw ang sinaktan nung una...ikaw ang binabalikan...ikaw ang babae...un lang un.Kung talagang tutuo sya sa nararamdaman nya, sya mismo gagawa ng paraan para bumalik ka sa kanya,kahit ipagtabuyan mo sya o hindi mo sagutin mga text nya, kung talagang mahal ka pa rin nya...hindi sya dapat manghinayang sa panahon na masasayang sa panliligaw sayo....

Once na napatunayan mo na tutuo sya sayo, saka ka mag isip kung ano ba dapat ang gagawin mo...3 years nga natiis mo na wala sya, ung pang sabihin nating isa o dalawang buwan suyuin ka lang nya...

hi there... may i butt in  :
being far and not talking face to face is prone to lots of misunderstanding.. as for me, i would advice you'd tell him exactly what you meant to say, say exactly what you feel, what you want, what you want to know, etc..  reading between the lines may not work this time... listen to what he'd say, but choose which to believe.... take time.. if he's willing to wait then he may be true to you but if not...  :-[

hope that helped...  8)

'was jst browsing over the topics and this kind'a caught my attention.. di naman sa usisera ako hehehe pero parang napagdaanan ko na 'to.

hi confuzed,
      .... been there, done that! I was also hurt and confused during the time my bf told me that over the phone. I asked him,"apay ngay?" and he answered by simply saying..........(nahh, i'd rather not tell,it's too personal). But, we have to understand  that's the nature of some men. When they can't explain their emotions or maybe if they're going thru a serious dilemma/problem or when they needed time or space to think alone ---------- they simply say that. And worst of all, some men are insensitive of what we are going through. Women are ruled by their emotions and this is a fact which men should consider when they enter into a relationship. I agree with you, it is better that he should have told you he is into another relationship than keeping you hanging or confused. For me, it's better that he should have told me he doesn't love me anymore. Although it hurts, it's easier to accept and will also accelerate "moving on" with life. Oh yeah, did you ask him if he still loves you?
I think his answer to that question will make a difference in your decision to either wait or move on. I know how you feel. Keep on sharing what you feel, it takes the burden off your heart.. Big hug to you.... 

oh well,

ano po ba masasabi ko...hmmm, if im in ur shoes, id rather demand for an explanation...ask him all the whys and kahit ano pang gusto u malaman,, if he cant give u the answers that can pacify your hurts then think things over and dont just rush back to him..
icipin mo na lang ung sakit and depression na naranasan mo,he should atleast make up for the things he'd done to you..not juz bcoz he sed he loves u still eh okay na..
make him realize girl....