why does lines such as "it's not you, it's me" or "you deserve someone better..."  still present in the world today? we all know that it's plain bullshit right? we all know that actually it means i don't want you anymore! why mention these lines when in fact the person your telling this to knows it's a lie and that you just can't say it directly or you're too stupid to figure out some not-so-obvious lines (at least original ones).

does breaking it gently really alleviates the pain? or it just became a custom that you should have such lines whenever you decide to terminate it but actually it makes no difference at all.

would you have it gently? or expressly? is there a difference?

i didn't know it doesn't work.  :-\

Maybe people know you know these lines are all bullshit. however maybe they just can't stand you anymore and don't really give a shit what you think. thats the whole point of these lines, because when you hear one you know its all over instantly and theres no point arguing.

PROVERB: There are plenty more fish in the sea.

              (Handy, if you enjoy f#*king fish)

that's is actually simple, it's like feeding you frist before killing you.

that's respect for the feeling of the other.. yup you can tell its over but atleast those words are used to atleast not make it to harsh to listen to...

i think so too...

does breaking it gently  really alleviates the pain? or it just became a custom that you should  have such lines whenever you decide to terminate it but actually it  makes no difference at all.

would you have it gently? or  expressly? is there a difference? 

on men's side siguro yeah.. they don't like the women to be be hurt that bad...but there's this guy i really admire....huh!like..he said it straight to my face...that there's really nothing going on.. :2funny: :2funny: :2funny: aruuu!baka pag gently eh genly na mag breakdown ang isa. (lolz)

that's becuase most people don't see the beauty of DATING...and oftentimes mis-interpreted!

I still think that this BREAKING IT TO ME GENTLY technique is unethical...full of hypocrisy!

dating is important because it avoids hurt feelings...and when you go to a series of date and eventually found that you're not meant with each other...then say so!

How will you know if he deserves someone better? Ok, given the fact that indeed he deserves someone better... but the one he likes is you. I'd rather go for the someone I like than someone who is better.

Isn't it that you're just doing everything you can to alleviate the pain but the other person I think will never buy it. I think "in your face" is still better.

Doing this "break it to me gently stuff" I think helps the speaker more than the person whom he/she is telling it too. It takes away some of the guilt.

if he thinks that breaking it gently could ease up the pain, its the same with killing the person by giving her wine with arsenic, slowly killing her..

hmnnn..it's another way of saying "i dont love you anymore" or "i dont love you"

those were being used still...what makes the difference? hmnn..they still hurt! ouch!

here are some list of essential things that u must do in the early days of a break ups....1. Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isn’t being immature. Seeing your former flame can bring out emotions and may cause you do to or say something you will regret. In the first few weeks the best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will be.


2. Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later.


3. Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.


4. Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong.


5. Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things?


6. Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying. Think about these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Dwell on them. It will make you feel better to remember that your former flame was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss.


7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your life.


8. Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from instant messaging or texting on your cell. Just don’t contact your ex until you are totally and completely sure you no longer want to be with him or her. It is the only way.